You probably wouldn’t think of counselling when you make New Year Resolutions as you are usually full of hope, that you will succeed.
At this emotionally charged time, after the New Year’s Eve celebrations, where we reminisce about the past, it seems an ideal time to look to the future. A time to make changes, which we anticipate will improve our lives in some way.
It may be giving up smoking or other addiction, or losing a few pounds, gained from over indulging at Christmas, or reducing our working hours, in order to spend more time with our families.
We start with good intentions, (often helped along with a few drinks), and with determination.
According to a recent UK survey, the most popular resolutions are around becoming more physically healthy. This might involve either losing weight or doing more exercise, or both.
If successful, some of these changes, can of course be beneficial to your physical health. It is when we feel we have failed to sustain the changes, that we feel disappointed and often this disappointment can turn into self-hatred. A sense of failure can emerge which perpetuates and decreases our feeling of self-worth further.
So, what about our mental health? How does this affect our ability to succeed with some of these good ideas?
Of course, determination and willpower are involved and it is a good plan to focus on the tasks involved, rather than the outcome – small steps.
However, even the strongest willed person, may be doomed to failure if they have not explored their sense of self-worth, motivation and confidence levels in enough depth in the first place. In fact, according to the Mental Health Foundation, up to 80% of us will fail to keep our resolutions
Counselling and psychotherapy can help you to do this, in a safe and non-threatening way.
So consider therapy today and resolve to keep your mind as healthy as your body. Treat yourself to a real celebration – YOU!