There are many reasons why, at Christmas, relationships can be affected negatively, as this is often a time of stress and anxiety.
What is anticipated as a happy time of celebration and a well-deserved break from work, can often turn to disaster and be fraught with conflict, stress and breakdown of relationships. Sometimes these ruptures might take many years to heal.
Areas of concern can range from the problems caused by over-spending on presents and catering for many people, to the strains of spending time with ex partners and in-laws.
‘Divorce day‘ is the lawyers’ nickname for January 3rd, when unloving couples return from the compulsory cheerfulness of Christmas holidays, determined to seek new and separate lives in the New Year. Many of these issues arise from our unrealistic expectations and our desire to create a ‘Perfect’ Christmas.
In reality, this ‘myth’, often perpetuated by the media and our childhood memories of Christmas, understandably falls short of our actual abilities. This is when the damage to our relationships can occur, both physically and emotionally. Sometimes this can be the beginning of the end, for what was previously seen to be a loving and happy relationship.
If you would like to save your relationship and have a really happy Christmas season, consider counselling.
I am experienced in working therapeutically, with couples, individuals and groups. I can help you to explore how you can make positive and permanent changes in the way you manage your relationships at Christmas and throughout the year.
So don’t wait until you reach crisis point, contact me to make an appointment now.